Pause for Progress. In this episode, Kim and Shreya discuss the importance of pausing and completing tasks in both personal and professional life. They share their experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons they've learned from each other. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clarity and gracefully handling disagreements.
Kim and Shreya's Banter Series is an engaging conversation between two hosts exploring topics often left unsaid or misunderstood. In this episode, they discuss the importance of pausing and completing tasks in both personal and professional life. They also touch upon their experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons they've learned from each other. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clarity and the benefits of gracefully handling disagreements. This podcast aims to provide valuable insights and inspire personal growth.
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Hi, it's Kim. Let's get started. Welcome, everyone. Sharia. She is an amazing person. And today we're going to do our banter session. It's our first session of four.
We're going to have a series of four this month. And I'm excited to share Sharia with you. Welcome, Sharia.
Thank you so much, Kim. Thank you so much for inviting me to this session. And I'm excited to share all the gifts that you gave me during those three intense days. And I'm excited to be here.
And I know it will be super valuable for everyone, everyone listening in. It's something that we all need, but we don't know we need. So I'm excited. Thank you so much. All right. Thank you.
You do you have like Packers? Is that Packers?
Oh, this is Wisconsin Packers. Yeah. That's great. Because you know. That's my team. Oh, I love it. That is like, that's like, you know, Wisconsin. We're all Packer. That's Packer domain. So when you come up here to visit me, that is where I'm going to take you. I'm going to take you to a game. Oh my god. Like as soon as you said that you're from Wisconsin, I was like, Oh my gosh, she's from where my team is. So what's up with you?
So I know that you've been traveling and you are just you were able to spend some time with family after we spent some time together last week. So tell me, now are you settled?
Are you feeling better about things and you started to kick start things? Tell me where you're at. Yes. So geographically,
I'm still in Florida. I'm still at my family's face. I'm kind of still not back home in LA.
But things are starting to take shape. And there's like things are starting to get more
clear. And I'm kind of like exploring new things of where I can get more clear on my vision.
And things are happening. I'm excited. So tell me, tell me what has changed for you. I think you left a little note for me earlier this morning on a Marco Polo.
Tell me a little bit about what came up for you this morning when you woke up. Some light bulbs that showed up.
Yeah. One thing was that like, you know, like how in life we just get so busy that we're constantly running. And one thing that showed up for me was in the morning, if you just stop for a little bit,
if you just take a little breather in the morning and nothing drastic, just dress up, just dressing up for the day. It helps a lot.
And now you are, it's pretty much like shopping to sharpen your tools. Where you kind of like keep cutting the wood all day long. You're
like, if I stop, it's going to lose my momentum. And then one time you take a break, you stop and
sharpen your tools again. And you notice that things just move faster. And for us tech people,
those tools, the biggest tool that we live off of is our brain. And if you just take a little break and just take a breath and pause and kind of strategize where you're going.
And just charge it sharpens your brain. It helps. It helps things get faster. It helps things go smoother.
So that was like, that is something that was like ready relaxing and also like very helpful in figuring out what is it that I need as a person because that kind of break is important mentally. Because we have such high demanding careers and professions that we oftentimes do not
take that moment for ourselves, which shows up in every area. Yeah, it's really funny. So things
have been showing up for me as well. As you said, the pause isn't about just taking 15 minutes a day.
It's the awareness of pausing at different times in your life. For me, there was a time where I was kind of really struggling with even getting up out of bed.
And if I could just get out of my head, that pause out of my head. And then just structure myself in the morning to get out of bed, brush my teeth, right?
Because it's like sometimes I wouldn't even brush my teeth. I mean, that's kind of strange sounding, but you get to the point where it's like you're sitting in bed all the time because you're in your head.
So I got out, made sure I brush my teeth, and then I would make my bed.
And I even like we're doing this challenge this week, these 90 days and I posted in there, you know, did you make your bed this morning? How did that make you feel?
I did make my bed this morning and I've been doing that for like a week now. And it makes a lot of
difference because not that bed is not a space that's inviting for me to just get back in.
It's something that I left behind and it's done with like, I'm not even thinking about it after that, because that is kind of complete on my end, which is something you kind of also like, we had a discussion around this where it was like, once you complete something, it's easier to go onto the next step.
But if we leave something incomplete, even if it's just like 30 seconds of something left, it lingers in online, it stays there.
And that is another thing added onto the plate. Like you were kind of like, we had this discussion where things were like,
oh, there's so many things that just keep coming back to your plate. But then it's also like,
because those things just don't get completed. But if things get completed in small points,
it's just like, you know what, it doesn't have to be big things that get completed, even if it's
like a very small thing that gets completed, it's it's a tick mark, it's like done. So it's like the time boxing technique that you showed me, just like, make it into a time box doesn't have to be very small, doesn't have to be like everything at once. It's just like, okay, this one thing, what is the outcome?
What is a tangible thing that I kind of want to have at the end of it? And just working towards that one thing. And this making the bed is one of those where it doesn't have to be very
explicit or a big production. It was just like, oh, I made my bed. The outcome is my bed looks pretty, and I don't want to go back into it. I love that.
One of the things that you've helped me on, you know, because the thing is, you know, it gets really messy. When you're creating a business, it gets really messy.
And, you know, all these years that I've gone into companies, large companies, right, and clean, you know, things were very messy and coming in and helping them clean it up is much easier from the outside coming in and
doing that, right? So here I am now sitting in my own shoes, creating my own business since June. In June, it was really messy. Didn't know really what I was doing because I wanted to cut, you know, concept, put the concept in place about this pause challenge, right?
And I did it for five days and I had 42 experts come in and, you know, support me in it.
And then I had 300 people that participated, but I gave too much. It was like, you know, drinking water out of a water hose, right? But I was learning how to actually do it because I've never done that virtual, you know, event. I've done other kinds of events, but this is, was really new to me. And so I look back now and I go, wow, you know, I really did some amazing things, but it
was very, very, very messy in it. It's like I was like drowning. And now, I mean, you know, there's been some steps for me where I kind of mentioned earlier that I felt like I was in this bubble and this bubble is being released from working with you.
And I really appreciate you because what you've done for me, you know, as, you know, you know, I was coaching you, but you taught me so much.
And what that is, is I didn't see the value in who I was. Well, it's kind of sad,
so it doesn't, but you know, I really like, it's almost like I was sheltering myself in, I couldn't articulate what I was offering, which is simply time management, right? But it's not a simple thing. And the approach that I'm sharing with you is a different, very different,
right? It's different about when we talk about agreements and how, you know, completing things, right? Time management can be designed in many ways and you hear it so so often and people struggle with that so often, right? I don't even bring the word up to you.
I'm teaching you the tools, the sharpened tools, right? That may, may or may not work for you, right? And adjust and pivot that to make sure it does. And we talk a lot about agreements, right? Anger management, we, well, you know, there was some anger in that and I became aware of what that was and me using my own tools,
right? For myself, there's things that I'm learning to build my own business that I need to apply for myself and I truly want everyone to see that I'm walking through, you know, walking through the mess as a design as well. You know, I'm not perfect.
Even though I have all these years of experience, there's a lot for me to learn, you know, so, and I learn along with you. So thank you so much for all your wonderful teachings and your humble words and just sharing.
So thank you so much for that. Thank you so much for those kind words and honestly, the gifts that you gave me cannot be measured in value because they're like priceless and those are the teachings that will stay with me for life because they're really a very fundamental to who I am and it helps me get a more clear vision of myself and the things that work for me.
It's pretty much like we know some things that we know. We know some things that we don't know and we learn those. But what you helped me was with knowing the things that I didn't know that I didn't know.
I know it sounds complicated, but I know you understand what I mean is some of the things that I didn't know were possible, some of the things that I didn't know could be managed and you helped me get clarity on those.
And if you remember, the first thing when he asked like, if there's one thing that you get over in my goal, what would it be that you would want?
And I was like, clarity. And he helped me with a lot of clarity on the business side of things.
But then with you, a lot of the clarity came from within of things that not just would help the business side, not just like being an entrepreneur, but also like things that would help me in my
personal life, in my job, in everything I do, like, which once you start implementing are simple,
but they're not so simple when you don't know what they are. So like really being with somebody, getting coached from somebody who's experienced in both sides, who has been through it all, is willing to teach you things that they have learned in their life.
That's that's the value that we don't get just by watching YouTube videos or by reading books. It's it's a value that comes with experience that only an experienced coach can bring into your life. You've been in the industry that I am in for 35 years.
Nobody can give me that value in a book. Those things are so special
about you that it's you have been what I've been doing in tech industry. You have been doing the things you are doing the things right now that I'm doing right now. It's like we're both setting up
our business and you are open and willing to coach me on those things. And that's that's not a gift
that I take lightly because these are so fundamental. And I want to thank you for sharing that gift with me and just being so awesome and so giving as a person, as a friend, as a coach. There are so many roles we navigated in that one week. And if I say so myself, I think we did a great job at it.
And there were so many things we both discovered about ourselves and about each other.
And one thing I love, the conversation we had when we're going to the airport was oftentimes we meet people and we agree with them on anything. But then one disagreement happens and relations disintegrate. But what we learned in those intense three days after the rainmaker was to gracefully disagree. And that is something that I feel everybody should know how to do
to really gracefully be like, you're a different person. I'm a different person. We disagree on this,
but that doesn't define our relationship. And I think a lot of the we learned a lot about each
other and ourselves in those disagreements and in those agreements, because every disagreement brought more teachings to us where we would go back a little bit later with some time to pause and think and be like, I see it now.
You know, those those moments are magical and something I will forever cherish and be grateful for. Thank you. Oh, you're welcome. That was that
was awesome. That was awesome. I love the magical because I love magical and I love fun and I love I love really, really inward and love to the authentic part of that, right? I think I don't know
there's always this feeling sometimes to cover all that up. I know that happens to me and sometimes I'm in like I'm actually talking to someone I can feel that in my heart where it gets real
covered or real it hurts. Like there's kind of pressure on there. And I know that I'm covering
up my heart, right? And you know, rightly so, those there's times in situations where you know, you do have to protect yourself, right? But yeah, it's just all that awareness around our minds, how we use our minds, how we use our hearts, how we use our gut, which is our instinct, right?
All that all those years of experience, right? We know. I know you shared some of that. It's like I knew over a month what was going on in my business, right? And you just glaringly told me this is what has to happen.
And you know, I did it. So that was awesome. Thank you very much. It's been such a pleasure hanging out with you. And we have another banter session next week. See you then.
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